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Dr. Sharif Arafa

At the start of each year, many of us like to review what we’ve accomplished the previous year, plan new goals, and achieve them in the new year. This is usually limited to career goals related to achievement and financial income, and they are all good and necessary, but there are other goals that are just as important, if not more important.
In his classic book, The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, Stephen Covey, the godfather of the American school of self-improvement, tells the children’s story of “The Golden Goose”…about the farmer who found it. that his goose lays golden eggs every day, so he got richer and more greedy, so he decided to kill the goose that lays golden eggs to take all the gold in his belly, he found nothing and the goose that lays chicken eggs died! Covey explains how this story illustrates a very important principle in personal development. It’s just that we’re all focused on getting more golden eggs, what he calls “production”. We take courses, learn skills, and work harder for longer hours. And that’s something. Success in life is essential… but he says that more important than “production” is the ability to produce. In other words, don’t neglect your mental and physical health, because that’s what makes you productive. Don’t kill the goose -a production example- because you lose everything!
This is how many people neglect to plan for mental and physical health…they don’t plan for happiness…they plan to burn out quickly and lose productivity. Therefore, when we are planning for the new year, we must not neglect these psychological goals that are necessary for the happiness of our lives, so that we can be more successful and happy.
As you plan for the new year, in addition to your career goals, consider the following and build it into your weekly schedule:

family goals
One of the most influential relationships in life is the relationship with a life partner, as it is the most profound and influential in the details of our daily lives. So, set goals that increase marital happiness to ensure your overall happiness in life.
According to the Gottman Center for Research in Family Relations, it is not the resolution of disagreements and problems that improves relationships, because they do not end and continue from time to time. Studies indicate that a happy marriage requires five times more positive social interaction (compliments-flirting-encouragement-joy…) than negative interaction (criticism-complaints-fights…etc).
Therefore, it is important to plan what will increase positive relations between spouses. Be intentional and build it into your weekly schedule like: romantic dinners, blow off steam with your life partner, spend time with your kids to create shared memories before they grow up and in your mind that you are always busy with them.
Planning it is an investment in your happiness.

cultural goals
This may sound strange, but it’s not! Expanding your perception will help you in life in general and make you a better person.
in a way that fits the context of your life… decide to increase the intellectual means to help you achieve this mental elevation. For example, decide to watch a documentary about your favorite topic, or read a book every week, and it doesn’t matter if you dedicate a little time to it, as long as you persevere… half an hour of reading before bed. That makes you finish the intermediate book in a week!

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subjective goals
Here we mean goals related to you… spiritual goals, or your personal comfort, entertainment, travel, or even getting enough sleep every night… doing things that add meaning to your life or hobbies you have. He loves and does what he likes and doesn’t find time for it. Plan to meet up with friends and consciously make time for them to combat burnout and increase happiness.
Ask yourself: what do I like to do that I don’t have time for? Build it into your plan to align with other goals and don’t leave it to chance or circumstance!
Stephen Covey says that at the end of life, when a person remembers his happy moments, he doesn’t remember a good date or a successful business. Instead, chances are you are remembering a heartfelt moment with a loved one. Do not neglect this aspect of life!

healthy goals
I know you can ignore this point. But did you know that the effects of some physical activities are comparable, according to some studies, to the effects of antidepressants? Many of us are convinced that there is no time to exercise… but take this life with you: put your sports bag in the car, or take it to work, and it will be easy to stop on the way back. In the hall for a short time before heading home!
Or include walking in your daily routine… before work or in the evening… walk in your favorite place, don’t consider it a sport! Explore healthy food options. Make friends with people who are interested in these things. Healthy food also improves psychological well-being, according to many studies we cite on this page!

good goals
This is not a constructive conversation… but kindness increases happiness. According to many studies, bringing happiness to another person’s heart or seeing gratitude in the eyes of those you’ve helped boosts your self-esteem and improves your mental health. As experiments have found, doing “random good deeds” every day, such as eliminating adversity, praising someone, helping someone in need, or referring a colleague to your manager, increases happiness in life. significantly measurable way.
So make time in your schedule to do one of these things… call a distant relative and ask how they are doing… reconnect with a close friend or help someone you can help… as well as increase your happiness. It can also make you more successful as a symptom on my side, because it improves your reputation, increases people’s love, and makes many things easier!

Source: Al Ittihad

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